How to be ...

 A Good Friend.

Anything that ends with "ships" are hard. Honestly if you ask me, what is the highest maintenance thing in the world, it would be friendships. I have quite a number of friends, but real genuine friends are really hard to come by.

I have yet to find a good girl friend ( besides my beloved sister ), namely because i am not the typical girl - just not the typical girl, and i find it hard to fit in conversations or outings with these girls, so i join the dudes. Guys are way easier to mingle around with, but the downside is that they can be/ are really insensitive at times.

I hope i would find my girlfriends someday, i can't wait to hangout at coffee shops, and talk about dresses, have luncheons together and party together!! But we all know friendships is way more than that. And when do we put in effort, or walk out from one. I sometimes find it too hard, because most of the time, i find myself valuing the friendship at a 8/10 but to the other party, it is almost insignificant.

I do have close friends, but i never came across that one person who knows me inside out (except my sister)!

However, until the day comes i meet you girlies, here are a few ways to be a really good friend.

1) You should never ever make comparisons among yourselves, creating competition between the two of you is a no-no. 

2) Sometimes, it is really normal to feel envious ( in a good way ), but never jealous. Savour it and let it go.

3) You have to be genuinely happy for your best friend ( in terms of her success, her happiness, etc), no matter how unfair you feel about the situation is.

For eg, if you have to save for 5 years for a down payment and her dad buys her a car..  You might feel that she doesn't deserve it at all, but who are we to say what each individuals deserve?

4) Make sure it is two ways. You both value each other equally. If she is there for you and has given the best that she can, so should you. Be sensitive to each others feelings, generally, do what you want others to do onto you and you won't go wrong.

5) Never take pleasure in the misfortunes of others

 ( Schadenfreude ) 

A feeling which we all experience from time to time, and we know it doesn't feel great. Let it go, would youd want your bestie to be dancing inside when she sees you heartbroken? Most certainly not.

Well, well, be a good friend, a good soul. There is a real shortage for good friends in this world. =)
I hope i am one to ( whoever ).