Is it what it really seems to be?

I just had to blog on this topic, i felt that it was crying out to me.. 

I read about it in the newspaper a few days ago, the writer (Asha Gill) explained the importance of crying, for both men and women. The benefits of crying, and she too, cannot fathom why crying, in your own space/public is seem as weak, unacceptable.

I for one, cannot agree more.

Both men and women are capable of falling in love, feeling happy and sad and we both grieve.
If you think about it, we are the same. Yes, indeed we both men and women work differently on many levels. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, right? or the other way around? either way, i disagree.
Because deep down, when things really matters, we all act the same way, we all feel the same way. Men just hide it because .... it's what they are supposed to do.
I can't help but wonder why - is it because they are brought up that way?Men are supposed to be macho about most things, they normally don't show an ounce of emotions, maybe a few - happiness, anger, excited. Maybe crying, in this terms, for men, are way too extreme. However, i constantly find myself bewildered (among friends), the enormous amount of ego men can produce when they need to cover their feelings and emotions - although we all know what these poor men really feel deep down inside.

Some of my friends say that men, do feel all the same things women feel, it is just the way it is conveyed. Men just can't expressed as well as ladies. Me : That is where the problem really starts, don't you think in any situation it is always better to sit down and talk about it - which generally leads to solving the problem, rather than just showing your emotions in a negative way { in this case, i would say frustration and anger }. Generally, the men i know, don't express themselves at all, and i am so angry with myself when i am placed in this kind of situations, simply because, i really want to help by listening but i can't at all because i don't know what is going on inside his head and his heart. And i can see the sadness in their eyes, but they just can be explained or express in words!

I believe that if a man is capable to love, he is capable of a heartbreak ( he won't show it- i know ). He might not cry in the toilet, or on the bus.. but i think sometimes he really want to. Guys, your macho-ness won't corrode away even if you show the gentle and softer side of you. Those who do show it, you have all my respect to go against the odds to show them.

Cheers to all the men out there who can identify their feelings, and lay them out!! =)